It's half way through the year and just how exactly are your "New Year" resolutions keeping up? Normally at the end of the calendar year everyone starts reflecting on their accomplishments, what they did or didn't do, how they will do better next year, what they will change, and their goals for next year. Why not take a look back on them halfway through the year and make new ones?
Truthfully, at the end of a year, many people just throw out lists of things that, for the most part, do not really mean anything. They are not true indicators of how that person has grown mentally, the challenges they have faced, and more than likely, overcame, or how they pushed themselves to be better. Everyone always lists or writes the same things such as "New year, new me," or "I didn't reach my fitness goal this year, but starting January 1 things will change," or my personal favorite, "Man, this year was rough and I can't wait to start the new year and put this year behind me."
I am not saying that those statements are not valid, but if you really think about it, the past year that you have oh so eagerly waited to "put behind you" is probably a year that has helped you find yourself and find out who you truly are.
Within a year, or even within six months, many people find a new love interest, or relish in the love that they have already found, lose a loved one or someone they deeply care about (whether it be by death or some other circumstance), move to a new house, make new friends (while continuing to develop stronger relationships with the ones that they already have), or even let go of the relationships that just aren't healthy anymore. Some start on a new career path and, most of all, many regret something that they did or did not end up doing.
Personally, throughout this past year, many of the things listed above have happened to me and I have realized that they have made me the person that I am currently. Many people are completely oblivious to the fact that all of these things change you, and many of them for the better. They help you to find yourself. In the world today, many people take these things for granted, but truthfully any little thing can change you.
I know that each of these things has given me a different outlook on life. By losing someone close to me I realized that life can be gone in the blink of an eye and that there is a need to cherish every moment that you have with someone. Even if someone is getting on your last nerve, try and live in the moment with them and get past it. Nothing is worth losing those moments with your loved ones. Sadly, one day, you won't have them anymore, so cherish them while you can and forget the pettiness.
The same goes for love interests. Some may come and go, and some may be there to stay. No matter what the circumstance, everything will happen for a reason. You are there to make each other stronger and to better each other. If it doesn't work out, at least you know that you gained something from the relationship. You discovered a little bit more about yourself. Things that you now like to do, but would have never tried if it wasn't for your significant other. Things that bug you and test your patience, but are giving you life experience at the same time. Moments with your significant other may also come and go, but never take them for granted either. Essentially, they are what make you the person you are today.
Not forgetting, relationships with friends fall into that same category. Moments with them help you develop your likes and dislikes, and believe it or not, help you learn how to work through difficult situations. You may not think so, but the disagreements that you have with your friends are actually forcing you to decide what is right for you and forcing you to develop opinions that make you to stand up for what you believe in. At the same time, these disagreements are challenging you to take their side of things into consideration, too, and to see the world from their perspective, giving you even more life experience.
What I am saying is that each of these moments that happen to you within the year, and really your whole life, are moments that are shaping you into the person that you are at this very second. Many of these moments are overlooked throughout the year and are taken for granted. Revaluate your resolutions throughout the year. Continue to sit down and make new ones. Reminisce on what has happened in the past month, six months, etc. The good and the bad.
No one ever really takes the time to think about how that argument with their best friend actually changed their whole mentality on the issue. No one ever really thinks about how losing a loved one actually forced them to take a look at the world with a different set of eyes and appreciate the small things in life.
So, next time, think about these moments when they happen or even recap them at the end of the day, month, or year. Truly think about the moments that you normally would not. After all, life is all about finding yourself and discovering who you want to be, and now is the perfect time to start.
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